butterflyuk

From the time of our birth till the time we die we communicate, with others, with ourselves and with nature. Sure we all can communicate one way or the other even with physical impairment or with language differences. Why is it then that we don't understand the others, the nature or even ourselves to the extent that would make everything clear and straight forward?

You could be communicating with someone for say 2 years almost every day. You think you know all about each other. You understand the words that are written or spoken but is that a "communication"? No I think not. When we have been communicating from the time we were born and we were taught by many in many different ways the art of communication, why are we still not so successful?

If people say different things and mean different things then that is their fault. Their communication had flaws and that is not your failure but when the correct words were spoken and you took them as what they meant then that should be taken as a communication success.

Unfortunately a communication success doesn't mean you understood what was said. For that you need to read between the lines - as they say. For that you need to understand the person, their heart and their mind. Now that is an impossible task. How can you? Leaving aside people's psychological and sociological reasons where they change their mind after saying the things they do, how can you know what you heard wasn't what you should have understood?

Communication means understanding. If you don't allow someone to understand you how can you expect them to know you? If they don't know you then misunderstanding will take place. Who do you blame at that time? -Communication! There was nothing wrong with the communication. What was wrong was you! You did not open your heart and mind to be read and understood so don't blame the communication.