butterflyuk

These days it seems that people are more selfish than they used to be. Can you expect or rely on anyone to be with you forever? I remember the couples, people who would do anything for each other. Of course there were disagreements and arguments but after all that was over or even while that was going on they still loved each other and would not imagine their lives without each other. My parents were my first icons until my papa passed away and mum couldn't do anything to stop that. No one could stop that. That is another subject.

Why then things appear to be different now? I am sure there are people still out there who want to spend their lives together no matter what. Generally I have seen that in my elderly customers. What changed for our generation that loyalty and support do not seem to take priority? Self takes the importance. Is it because we are more independent now? We all are self sufficient now? We don't need anyone now?

My opinion is that in the old days people married younger and they grew together, understood each other and accommodated each other. When we meet someone later in the life both of us have got our own strong views, expectations and requirements. We are set in out ways and it is difficult to change. On the other hand marrying younger has its down fall too so that is not the absolute answer for a successful relationship either.

If you are not happy in a relationship or not getting what you want from a relationship then what is the point of being together? It is better to walk away and leave each other in peace. Problem comes that in most relationship it is one party that wants the freedom more than the other. If both feel the same then that is settled but when one is more attached than the other one then the heartache starts. Where one partner threatens the other one that if I don't like something then I am off then it is obvious that the relationship is one-sided. Perhaps the other one tries to please for a while but when you try to act different to what you believe or want to then eventually it becomes a burden.

What is better - compromising and accepting less than you want or deserve to keep a relationship going because nothing is perfect or 100% or insist on fulfilling your requirement or need and reject or break a relationship that gives you less - in the hope that you will end up getting exactly what you want sooner or later?