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Last night one the local papers had a little piece titled "Internet couple gets divorced". It was meant to be funny but had me thinking how we go for the same type of people all the time.

This couple chatted on internet and got on great. They decided to meet up with an intention of having a relationship. When they faced each other they found that they are looking at their own spouses! They were married to each other!

The Lebanese husband was very angry and said to his wife "I divorce you" three times in public. (In the traditional manner for giving divorce). The woman screamed at him "you are a liar" before she fainted.

O.K. it is hilarious. That is a chance people take not knowing who they will end up with when they go for blind dates arranged through the net but is it not ironic that they chose each other in the first place?

What mysterious force pulls us to one person while pushing another person away who may perceive to be better suited to us? Why are we attracted to the similar type of person yet again? I believe our likes and dislikes are imprinted in our minds from childhood, probably through our formative experience with our parents. We may not agree to it but there are some basic qualities of our mother or father that were mapped out in our brains and we unknowing seek those out. It could be some physical feature like a smile or a loving look or it could be a behaviour pattern like warm friendly or strong independent personality.

We also choose a mate from similar characteristics and social background but with complementary needs. What do you think of "opposite attracts"? Does that change the whole concept of "we feel most comfortable with someone much like ourselves"?