Thursday, January 13, 2005
Positive thinking
Do self instructions and positive thinking work? I suppose they do up to a point. I believe it depends on lots of external influences as well as one's own circumstances and state of physical and mental health.
I don't think just a very strong wish or determination alone can achieve what you want to achieve, sure it helps immensely towards it. At times there are other things that hinder you in granting that wish. I don't know exactly what they are but I know they are there. This is very true as far as health is concerned.
My father died of cancer many years ago at a reasonably young age. We, as a family made a decision not to tell him the diagnosis. Perhaps it was wrong to do that. I most certainly would want to know if I had a terminal illness. I have many things to sort out and many loose ends to tie up - so to speak. In case of my father, it would have killed him before the time. By knowing what he was suffering from and was likely to suffer more would have made him give up. He would have been so worried about his family that he would not have enjoyed the few days he had left. We made him happy and comfortable as far as we could. In his case his, our, positive thinking did not, could not have made him better.
Two of my people had mental break down. Both were diagnosed the same thing - totally different unconnected situations. My cousin had a sudden, worse episode but recovered quickly. Going about his life as if it never happened. The other one has never got over it and still suffering despite strong wish and positive thinking. Of course there are so many reasons and differences which can not be controlled, starting with genetic and biological differences.
After saying all this I can also prove how positive thinking and stubborn determination can make someone return from a death bed. I will tell you about my friend tomorrow.
At times, My mind has been able to create a world my heart desired but that is only an illusion, isn't it? That is not my positive thinking, it's only my self preservation tactic.
I don't think just a very strong wish or determination alone can achieve what you want to achieve, sure it helps immensely towards it. At times there are other things that hinder you in granting that wish. I don't know exactly what they are but I know they are there. This is very true as far as health is concerned.
My father died of cancer many years ago at a reasonably young age. We, as a family made a decision not to tell him the diagnosis. Perhaps it was wrong to do that. I most certainly would want to know if I had a terminal illness. I have many things to sort out and many loose ends to tie up - so to speak. In case of my father, it would have killed him before the time. By knowing what he was suffering from and was likely to suffer more would have made him give up. He would have been so worried about his family that he would not have enjoyed the few days he had left. We made him happy and comfortable as far as we could. In his case his, our, positive thinking did not, could not have made him better.
Two of my people had mental break down. Both were diagnosed the same thing - totally different unconnected situations. My cousin had a sudden, worse episode but recovered quickly. Going about his life as if it never happened. The other one has never got over it and still suffering despite strong wish and positive thinking. Of course there are so many reasons and differences which can not be controlled, starting with genetic and biological differences.
After saying all this I can also prove how positive thinking and stubborn determination can make someone return from a death bed. I will tell you about my friend tomorrow.
At times, My mind has been able to create a world my heart desired but that is only an illusion, isn't it? That is not my positive thinking, it's only my self preservation tactic.
# posted by butterflyuk : 1/13/2005 10:18:00 pm
