Sunday, November 07, 2004
Capable of Love
Is it possible that some people just are not capable of loving someone intensly or being loved? No matter how much love they receive, they just find a way to put obstacles in that. They desperately want to love and be loved but unknown to themselves they are afraid of love.
It is possible that they did not receive love and affection in the formative years and they are not sure how to deal with it when they do receive it. It is also possible that they did receive abundance of love and affection in the formative years but later in the life some incident made them afraid of it. It is possible that they are trying to protect themselves so that they do not get hurt.It is also possible that they might be trying to protect the other person from getting hurt knowing that they cannot give anything in return.
It is a shame that whatever the reason they are missing out on a wonderful feeling of being in love. Is it not better to take a chance and experience the most important emotion in the human heart instead of letting it pass by?
It is possible that they did not receive love and affection in the formative years and they are not sure how to deal with it when they do receive it. It is also possible that they did receive abundance of love and affection in the formative years but later in the life some incident made them afraid of it. It is possible that they are trying to protect themselves so that they do not get hurt.It is also possible that they might be trying to protect the other person from getting hurt knowing that they cannot give anything in return.
It is a shame that whatever the reason they are missing out on a wonderful feeling of being in love. Is it not better to take a chance and experience the most important emotion in the human heart instead of letting it pass by?
# posted by butterflyuk : 11/07/2004 11:08:00 pm
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You are so correct. I was the fool who couldn't give or receive love. And, 14 years after she walked away, it is the most horrific pain I have ever felt. True love found me in 1989. It 'lasted' two years. I was a cruel, torturous, twisted monster who drove her out of my life. A sweet, tender, loving, affectionate, beautiful woman who pursued ME, and I still found a way to foul it up and lose her. I've had a lot of psychotherapy and found out a lot about myself. Yes, I did come from a broken home. No, I never had affection from anybody growing up and yes, I did freak out when love found me. I only pray to God that somewhere, somehow He lets me have a second chance so I can use what I've learned and not mess it all up. Love DOES exist, and when/if it finds you, hang on VERY tightly to it or else you will suffer through life like I am. I still miss her. I am deeply troubled by losing her and profoundly sorry I acted the way I did.
# posted by 
: 1:56 am
: 1:56 am
hmmmm... i think its also helpful to realize that love is not always a feeling ... it actually starts with a decision to be committed to one person and treat them in a loving way ... then the "feelings of love" come and stay with you provided you maintain that love ...
# posted by : 4:40 pm
: 4:40 pm
Some people are just not capable of loving the same way you or I do. Everyone "loves" to an extent that they can, and in a way that they can. Unfortunately, our capabilities do no always match up.
It's tough to know this and deal with it. All I can say, is that if I ever find someone who loves me like I love them, I will do anything to be with that person and keep the love going.
I wish everyone luck on the matter!
Dr. Dre-o
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It's tough to know this and deal with it. All I can say, is that if I ever find someone who loves me like I love them, I will do anything to be with that person and keep the love going.
I wish everyone luck on the matter!
Dr. Dre-o
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