Monday, August 23, 2004
Meeting online
I am just thinking aloud. Would love to hear other views.
Yesterday I was reading a blog from an young man on the subject of meeting people online. He was saying that people thought it was weird to meet someone on the net. People said that you don't know the person you are talking to and it always goes wrong. The young man's argument was that meeting online was not any different than scanning in a bar, or where ever you are amongst a crown, and searching if you see a suitable person there. The difficulty then is striking a conversation with that person. Both of you then need to find out each other's likes and dislikes. In other words getting to know each other. Well is this what you are not doing when you are talking to the person on the net? It is a better way in my opinion. This way you get to know the person and decide whether they are suitable for you without getting into the embarrassment of pulling out from face to face meetings.
It is not only searching for partners situation I am talking about. Online is an open treasure for finding friends, like minded people or just someone to talk to. I also had someone telling me that you cannot be friends if you never meet each other. Totally rubbish ! Sometimes you can open your heart to someone you are writing to instead of someone you meet face to face. Why can you not be close even if you don't meet? Being close to someone is being close mentally or emotionally, for that you don't need to be near physically.
The main problem on meeting online is people who are not honest, either to themselves or to the others. Just because there is no one to see them, they tell lies and pretend. That is what is wrong in meeting people online. Those people spoil it for everyone else. Then again those people would be deceitful in normal meeting to, wont they?
Anyway, this isn't the best of my analysis or philosophy but I felt like saying it so without giving it a great thought I have said it.
I just wish people were honest and say what they mean, be it on the net or in real life.
Yesterday I was reading a blog from an young man on the subject of meeting people online. He was saying that people thought it was weird to meet someone on the net. People said that you don't know the person you are talking to and it always goes wrong. The young man's argument was that meeting online was not any different than scanning in a bar, or where ever you are amongst a crown, and searching if you see a suitable person there. The difficulty then is striking a conversation with that person. Both of you then need to find out each other's likes and dislikes. In other words getting to know each other. Well is this what you are not doing when you are talking to the person on the net? It is a better way in my opinion. This way you get to know the person and decide whether they are suitable for you without getting into the embarrassment of pulling out from face to face meetings.
It is not only searching for partners situation I am talking about. Online is an open treasure for finding friends, like minded people or just someone to talk to. I also had someone telling me that you cannot be friends if you never meet each other. Totally rubbish ! Sometimes you can open your heart to someone you are writing to instead of someone you meet face to face. Why can you not be close even if you don't meet? Being close to someone is being close mentally or emotionally, for that you don't need to be near physically.
The main problem on meeting online is people who are not honest, either to themselves or to the others. Just because there is no one to see them, they tell lies and pretend. That is what is wrong in meeting people online. Those people spoil it for everyone else. Then again those people would be deceitful in normal meeting to, wont they?
Anyway, this isn't the best of my analysis or philosophy but I felt like saying it so without giving it a great thought I have said it.
I just wish people were honest and say what they mean, be it on the net or in real life.
# posted by butterflyuk : 8/23/2004 01:48:00 am
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My wife and I met online. Been together (online and off) for over 4 years now, married for almost 1, and have a beautiful one-year-old daughter together as well. Things are getting a little rocky in the relationship for the moment, but at the same time I don't think 4 years' worth of being together is anything to sneeze at either. So, a successful online relationship is absolutely possible in my opinion.
(My 2 cents)
- Iszi
(My 2 cents)
- Iszi
although you can make friends here they arent the same i believe as true real world friends. ive met many people thati met on the net and none of them sadly have so far demonstrated the ability to be 'real' friends. i think that to cross that bridge there has to be a reasonable amount of real world contact - which due to distance and circumstances is in the most cases not possible? an interesting read. nice to have met :-). Mr UKSouth
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